Valentine’s day is touted as one of the sexiest days of the year, by Hallmark, Victoria’s Secret, and florists. We may love or hate the holiday, but we probably all want to feel sexier more often and feel a deeper and more meaningful connection with our partners.
Health is sexy, eating right, sleeping enough, and exercise are good for the heart, muscles, and skin, and can make you bright eyed, bushy tailed, and more attractive to others. Unfortunately, you may be doing those things right, and still not feel very sexy, attractive, or that interested in having sex.
Human hormones are a very complicated interwoven web of interactions. Many women who are peri-menopausal come to see me and complain of having no libido, we start them on their hormone replacement and supplement programs and they feel much better very quickly. Others are not so lucky, and may be younger, not near menopause, and so fatigued, stressed and out of balance that they aren’t interested in sex. Emotional conflicts with your partner may explain lack of libido, but often hormonal imbalances can be found at the root of a lack of interest in intimacy.
For men, even those suffering from erectile dysfunction, all we usually need to do is give them a little testosterone therapy and BANG! they feel young and vital again. We do address the underlying reasons why the testosterone levels are low in the first place, but male physiology is a lot more simple than female in this case. For more information about our male hormone replacement programs, click here.
There are many hormones involved in sexuality, and their being out of balance can affect many different areas of your life, not just your Valentine’s day.
Estrogen and Progesterone: Primary sex hormones for females. These must be in balance for a woman to not feel irritable, and can play a part in depression and anxiety, or cause a woman to suffer from infertility, hot flashes and insomnia. Estrogen is necessary for lubrication and sexual response. Progesterone keeps the brain calm and happy.
Testosterone: Responsible for sex drive and primary sex hormone in men. Women use testosterone for sex drive, energy, mood and to create lean body mass. If a woman is working out with little to no results, she is probably low in testosterone.
Oxytocin: necessary for bonding with one’s partner and loved ones. This hormone also helps decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression.
Cortisol and Adrenal Hormones: Help to wake us up in the morning, give us energy, and are regulated in part by blood sugar, and stress. High cortisol will short circuit the sex hormones, cause weight gain, hair loss and thyroid dysfunction. The adrenal glands are responsible for stress response, and are also where some sex hormones are produced, both in men and women. They get drained under chronic stress and conditions where a person is suffering from insomnia. Adrenal support is very important for healthy aging as well, especially in women going through menopause.
Thyroid Hormones: Thyroid is largely responsible for metabolism control, and many health care providers wait for it to completely kerplunk into hypothyroid before they prescribe any intervention, leaving many people to feel depressed, fatigued, constipated and losing their hair. Not very sexy. We manage thyroid with bio-identical thyroid, nutritional support to make sure it is working as well as possible, and adrenal support. If cortisol is too high it can turn the active form of thyroid hormone, T3 into its reverse which is inactive, which can cause hair loss, and fatigue.
Hormone balance is necessary for a healthy, happy life, and it is possible to reach balance, naturally. Love yourself this Valentine’s day and make it a priority to balance your hormones, eat right, get good sleep and exercise. Your body will thank you, and so will the people you love.